Coming Out As A Lesbian Is The Best Decision I Ever Made” – Nigerian Lady

A lesbian and Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender [LGBT] rights activist based in
Calabar, Cross River State, Pamela Adie, says she is happy with her life after she decided
to come out of the closet and disclose her sexual orientation.



The Obudu-born Adie who was seriously vilified when she announced that she is a
lesbian after living with her secret for so many years, took to her Facebook page to
share the two lessons she learned after she came out of the closet.



Adie explained that she realized she was on her own when she first came out because
the people she expected to support her turned their backs on her including her family members.



According to her, many of those friends and family members who refused to support her decision have been silent till date while
some do not even wish to be close or have anything to do with her.




Read what she wrote:-

The first thing I learned is that
I'm on my own. It took me a while to realize
this because I kept expecting and waiting on family and friends to show support, give
approval, and accept me.
Very few did. The others remained silent.

And they're still silent till today because neither has bothered to break the silence.

Pamela Adie says coming out as a lesbian was the best decision she made.

The second lesson is that nobody owes me anything. There's a tendency to feel entitled
to peoples love, acceptance, and financial resources based on their supposed role in our lives.

Mother, father, brother, sister, uncle, aunt,cousin, niece, bestie, friend, etc. Nothing
could be more false. You're not entitled to anything.

You want something, work hard
for it. Bear the consequences.